The first time Lanbo asked me to wait for
him, it was Su
Ting’s
poem that flashed through my mind: “Wait for love to walk
into
the sun.” I want to travel with you to every
mountain every
water, I told him, and he said, when the time comes, any place is a
good place.
Meanwhile, ashamed of a daughter yet to be betrothed at age 26, my
mother begged all her acquaintances to match-make for me. I saw in her
eyes the fear that I would soon be joining the large crowd of
“aging youth,” a peculiar 1980s label for leftover
urban
women unable to find mates. During the Cultural Revolution, an entire
generation had been sent to the countryside, and spent the best part of
their youth in alien fields, determined not to marry until allowed back
to the city. When they did finally return, the men went for younger
girls, while their female peers were left to age alone. It was like the
aftermath of war, except that the men were wed instead of dead.
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